Should I keep seeing this guy or is he a player?

It sounds like you have your act together in terms of your emotional well-being after a divorce. You're doing all the right things: not jumping into anything too serious and holding your ground against his pressure. Good for you! I'm guessing you already know he's a player, since you've picked up on all his player behaviors. He sees you as a challenge since you're not giving in. Another good for you! Let him hang with the other girls and "entertain" with candles in his bathroom. (And no, that doesn't seem normal for a guy. Unless he's using the girlie shampoos for himself and that's a whole other story.) You're too good for his crap. Lose this loser.